Healing a relationship after cheating is not always easy. There is usually a lot of pain, anger and resentment present. But with time and the right kind of help it is possible to rebuild a much better and stronger marriage in the long run.
Striving to make the marriage the way it used to be before the affair is not going to to take you where you need to go if you want to heal your marriage. You can’t go back and change the past, you can only move forward.
Now that you have made the decision to move on and repair the damage in your marriage, there are a few things that you need to have to make it work. These are love, commitment, hard work and knowledge. It goes without saying that you need to love your spouse and both of you need to be committed to each other and to saving the marriage. This is not always easy to do after an affair and that is where the hard work comes in.
The first three, love, commitment and hard work, only you and your spouse can provide that. No one can make you love, commit, or work hard for the sake of your relationship. Once those factors are in place, you can always acquire the necessary knowledge to heal. A program like “How to Survive an Affair.” can help you attain this knowledge.
This is just a simplified version of what is needed to rebuild a relationship after cheating. But basically this is what it takes to get moving toward making your marriage into the marriage you most want it to be. Yes, it is possible to rebuild your marriage one block at a time. Though it may not seem like it at the moment, it can and does get easier if you and your spouse really work on it. If you both take appropriate actions to heal your marriage you will feel better and better as time goes on.